Oct 23, 2010

A girl's story

There bukky sat staring at her phone. As if willing it to ring with the intensity of her gaze. She gazed back at her watch, and was startled to find that 5mins had barely passed since the last time she checked. Standing up she went to the living room to check the wall clock, perhaps her watch was running slow. But that wasn't so..her watch was right on time. This was becoming a trend. Having to wait for bayo's call. Many times falling asleep in the process. I hope he's alright she thought. And said a silent prayer for him. Or could he have forgotten to take his phone to work like he did on monday?, she tought to herself. But even if, she argued, its 10.45pm, surely he would be back home by now. Why was his phone still switched off? Or could he be.......... No. She quickly shook the thought off before it took root. Never. Not her bayo. He loved her. He could never cheat. She was sure of that.

How many ladies have gone through this, later to find out the signs had been there all along...
In his eyes, as they scanned the room.
In his answers, as he looked everywhere but you.
In the coughs and the yawns, and the many pauses in-between.
When what was said that day doesn't square with what's said today.
How could you forget the silence, and the phone that's always turned off?
And when it isn't? "I'm sorry baby, the ring tone was low". Or more appropriately the macho answer, "its nothing, you're just overreacting"
The little things you so easily made excuses for.."He's been busy"..."he forgot"..."I understand, he's going through alot", you say. More to convince yourself than others.
And so the calls come every now and then.
The "darlings" and "sweethearts" gradually fade.
As the suspicions you try so hard to ignore gains momentum, you find you can't take advice you so often give.
What is happening? You ask in between tears. It was supposed to be happily ever after.
But he's not Alaadin and you're not Jasmine.
Slowly the pieces fall in place.
Yes...the signs were there all along, but you were too much in love to see them.
And so he slipped...
Further and further he slipped...
Till your heart couldn't find his where it once lived.

Note to ladies..
Not every guy cheats. If you have a guy that loves you, and proves it too, don't analyze him, don't smother him, don't be a nag and please remain faithful. And most importantly love and appreciate him.
If he still leaves after that, he isn't yours.
If he is yours, he'll surely come back to you.
If he doesn't remember good things fall apart for better things to fall together.
So keep your head up.

Love tomiwa

4 comments:

  1. Tommy Am so proud of you I can't even begin to explain it ! You have done what me and so many other people are "scared, reluctant or unwilling " to do. Nice story !! I like this part " good things fall apart for better things to fall together" Keep it up ! Am inspired to write ! *big smile* xoxo
    Amaka Anyanwu ! *who did u tink it was before?

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  2. sweetie this is lovely...every girl can relate to this..u know im always proud of u. Ur writeups are verstile, human, frank and interesting...stellar!!

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  3. This is awesome! i couldn't just help but to relate with it... not only does it talk to ladies but to guys as well... Everybody can surely get something out of it! U r UNIQUE girl, and am loving you more... cheers

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  4. this is so luvly. i so love it

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